Albatross

A wise woman once sang, “Devils that you know raise worse hell than a stranger.” This singular line from Taylor Swift’s “The Albatross” highlights how our thoughts and actions can be affected by the weight we give others’ opinions. It’s one thing to block out strangers, but it’s quite another to ignore people we know and love. Taylor explores this concept through the albatross. 

This song is about how “wise men” warn a mariner (for a full explanation about the mariner listen to our discussion on the episode) about the large seabird and insist that it’s dangerous. However, he doesn’t listen to them. Instead, he shoots the messengers. Ultimately, the mariner accepts the albatross, who warns the mariner about the “wise men.” 

The albatross and mariner are excellent examples of the weight we give others’ opinions and the importance of judging for ourselves. Often, we have outside noise constantly giving opinions. This noise includes social media, news media, friends, family, co-workers, teachers, religious figures, and even significant others. All of this can tap into a need to please others and could be harmful. 

Sorting through the noise and giving weight to other’s opinions can be difficult. For example, the mariner couldn’t believe the people he knew would give him false information or give advice not in his best interest. He sifted through all of that and made his choice. Many times, we hear what others are saying and internalize that into a false belief system that causes emotional problems. 

Taylor’s lyrics opens a dialogue of the impact these Dads, Brads, Chads, Sarahs and Hannahs could have on the mariner. He could give weight to their words, but he chooses not to pay attention. The albatross knew what the consequences were because she had been through it and could empathize. 

Ultimately, the albatross becomes a savior for the mariner. She spread her wings to be a parachute and rescues the seafarer. Hence, “the devil that you know looks now more like an angel.” What others thought was bad for him, is actually probably the best thing to ever happen to him. 

Sifting through all the noise and voices can be challenging, long, and frustrating. No matter your circumstances, we hope you believe you are cherished. You are loved, rooted, and worthy. Remember that.

By Heather Olson, LPC-S and Faith Brown, LAC